M. Scott Peck stated it in three words - the opening three words of the first chapter of The Road Less Traveled. It’s been a long time since I read that book and after my downsizing and elimination of shelves and shelves of excellent books - The Road Less Traveled is still in my small, very personal collection of books. I don’t have to reread his first three words, I’ve committed them to memory - they are . . . “Life is difficult.” Can’t make that any simpler nor profound. I see my friends all dealing with so many issues, sending mail or shipping a package, getting car repairs, technology failures and getting it fixed or replaced, family issues, job and business challenges and so on. The list is too long to enumerate. I’m dealing with it and so are you and most people.
This complexity is pervasive in our society. Our quality of life is absolutely better then it was 50, 100, 200, 500 years ago. But, at what price does this “improved” quality of life come? I discovered a small book by Elaine St. James about 9 or 10 years ago. Along with The Road Less Traveled, Elaine’s book, Simplify Your Life, is among those “keepers.” I actually also own a hard cover, compilation version of three of Elaine’s books on various aspects of the simplification topic. My copy of Simplify Your Life is well highlighted, color coded and annotated. In the book are 100 ideas for slowing down and simplifying one’s life. She talks about the idea of enjoying the things that really matter. I went through the book and found things that had an immediate impact on me. Some of the ideas she pointed out I had already implemented in my life. Others were things that made sense to me for myself. Still others didn’t influence me one way or another - they were not of importance to my personal life. So, I developed a color coding system - if I had already implemented it I highlighted the title in green. If I was in the process of implementing something, it was highlighted in pink. Ideas I was considering or would implement in the future I highlighted in yellow. If I felt an idea had no value in my life, I left it alone. I revisit the book regularly to see how I am progressing.
So, as part of my writing here, I’m going to touch on some of these ideas and actions I’ve taken. Number one is “Uncluttering.” Now, this might seem obvious, but most people are guilty of it. Clutter can be a lot of things. It can be tangible or intangible “stuff” that we have accumulated over time, often a lifetime. We keep it for lots of different reasons such as, “we might need this again someday.” Usually not, but we have it just in case. I know both men and women - this may be more a women’s trait - who keep clothes and shoes, coats and even “accessories” like costume jewelry they never wear anymore. One excuse for this is because it will come back into style again someday. Possibly, but will it still fit you if it ever does? We know that the fashion industry stays in business by always changing designs, creating new colors and combinations, etc. Skirts go up, skirts go down - trends and fads are created and ultimately most of those clothes that are kept will never be worn again (except maybe to a “vintage” theme party).
Guys may very well be guilty of keeping old shirts, worn jeans they can use for work clothes, tee shirts from vacations past and long past their useful life and similar stuff. Here’s another one for the guys. I was guilty of this. I still had all of my military uniforms more then 20 years after I was out of the military (my father kept his, too). I was never going to be in the military again, they didn’t fit anyway and all the current uniforms had changed. I got rid of them, finally . . . well, except for a few select items. It’s probably time for them to go, too.
Oh, and here are other things (these apply to both genders) to think about when decluttering in the clothes closet, chest of drawers, dresser and jewelry case. Typically, we only wear about 20% of the clothes in our active wardrobe 80% of the time. The same goes for shoes, socks, underwear, scarves, accessories like earrings, pins, broaches, neck chains, bracelets and rings you haven’t worn in years. If some of your jewelry has significant value you can “gift” it early to your offspring so you can have the enjoyment of seeing them wear it. If you don’t have any offspring or they don’t want it, then sell it and put the money toward retirement, a rainy day fund or a trip around the world before you’re too old to make that trip.
More on this topic in another posting, but I will recommend that you consider acquiring Elaine St. James book, Simplify Your Life: 100 Ways to Slow Down and Enjoy the Things that Really Matter. It’s published by Hyperion, small book, fast read and LOADED with ideas that can make your life so much simpler and freer. Another book I would recommend on decluttering your life is Clutter’s Last Stand: It's Time to De-Junk Your Life! by Don Aslett, published by Marsh Creek Press. Both authors have other books on various facets of life simplification and decluttering. You’ll never be free as long as you’re hauling around truck loads of stuff that is now - TO YOU - useless stuff.
Enthusiastically,
Ed
Thursday, February 19, 2009
Wednesday, February 4, 2009
Let the Bad Times Roll . . .
I know, it should be “Let the Good Times Roll,” but that isn’t the way it is right now. I have to stop listening to public radio, my poison of choice. Every newscast is just filled with depressing news about the economy, the weather, crime, the Iraq, Afghanistan, Israel/Palestine issues and so on. As a person with a Masters degree in television-radio from one of the great universities with a top rated school of public communications, I’m totally disillusioned about the state of our radio and TV industry. Frankly, I no longer listen to commercial radio, I watch as little commercial TV as possible, but still enjoy a some public television, have traditionally loved public radio, but now I’m getting burned out by the constant pummeling we get of depressing news breaks and feature stories. I gave up newspapers at least 7 or 8 years ago - and I see a trend in that direction as newspapers are facing declining circulation and revenues from advertising. Basically, we are a nation existing on negative news input. And, as we go, so, it seems, goes the rest of the world. Is it because they blindly follow our lead?
Well, I have to admit, all this depressing news is having an impact on me. I don’t exactly know what is causing my malaise, but I do know that becoming emancipated on November 1, 2008 afforded me feelings of great elation. But, now that I’ve passed the ¼ year mark, while I’m still feeling freer then I’ve ever felt in my adult life and happy to be free, I also feel that I’m either being held back or holding myself back from making great strides forward. Now, to be honest, I’m also reaching the phase of life where I have had to reevaluate my dreams and aspirations and start to let go of a lot of them that no longer mean as much to me, may no longer be valid due to the changes and advances in society and technology or there just isn’t enough time left in my lifetime to keep them high on the priority list.
There is a fourth Issue I’ve started to explore, too. My physical body (and my mental and emotional faculties) are showing their age. Now, believe me, I’m not quite 64 years old and I’ve already outlived both of my parents - so, I’m ahead of the game there. But, I just applied for and will start receiving Social Security benefits and in just over a year I will be on Medicare. I, honestly, never thought I’d reach the point of collecting or taking advantage of these government provided entitlements. It wasn’t that I expected to die young. It’s that I just never thought I’d be part of the people collecting these benefits. I’m not sure how I feel about this. Mostly, I don’t think old and I do focus on thinking young. And, by today’s standards, I’m not considered old, rather I’m considered middle-aged. My father was middle-aged when he died at 42 in 1967. As they say, 60 is the new 40.
But, I’ve dealt with one bout of cancer. I‘m a six year survivor. I’m being treated for hypertension - high blood pressure, if you will, and high cholesterol and triglycerides. The latter two are finally back in zone - AGAIN. But, the blood pressure, while not wildly out of control, is still not where I want it and where it should be. And, like much of our population, and especially prone are those in upper middle age and beyond, I’m carrying around too much protoplasm - well, the more common word would be weight. I see my internist regularly and she also feels that there are aging forces at work here that can be counteracted since I should still have a lot more energy, enthusiasm, motivation, etc. So, we’re looking for the root cause.
Living and working free are great, but they require that you have the physical, mental, emotional and even fiscal faculties to make it all work for a happy and fulfilling lifestyle. I am not unhappy. But, I do seem to lack the energy, enthusiasm, creativity, motivation and physical stamina that I should have at the tender age of 63. I still had most of this just a few years ago, but the decline has been subtle (maybe even a bit insidious). Now, it is apparent enough for me to realize it. It’s time to take action to grab my life back from apathy and malaise and start doing something that gives me joy and fulfillment and has some kind of positive impact on the world. My cup is still half full and I want it running over again. If you’re dealing with any of these kinds of feelings, thoughts or issues, let me know. As I find things that help me, I’ll pass them on to you.
Enthusiastically,
Ed
Well, I have to admit, all this depressing news is having an impact on me. I don’t exactly know what is causing my malaise, but I do know that becoming emancipated on November 1, 2008 afforded me feelings of great elation. But, now that I’ve passed the ¼ year mark, while I’m still feeling freer then I’ve ever felt in my adult life and happy to be free, I also feel that I’m either being held back or holding myself back from making great strides forward. Now, to be honest, I’m also reaching the phase of life where I have had to reevaluate my dreams and aspirations and start to let go of a lot of them that no longer mean as much to me, may no longer be valid due to the changes and advances in society and technology or there just isn’t enough time left in my lifetime to keep them high on the priority list.
There is a fourth Issue I’ve started to explore, too. My physical body (and my mental and emotional faculties) are showing their age. Now, believe me, I’m not quite 64 years old and I’ve already outlived both of my parents - so, I’m ahead of the game there. But, I just applied for and will start receiving Social Security benefits and in just over a year I will be on Medicare. I, honestly, never thought I’d reach the point of collecting or taking advantage of these government provided entitlements. It wasn’t that I expected to die young. It’s that I just never thought I’d be part of the people collecting these benefits. I’m not sure how I feel about this. Mostly, I don’t think old and I do focus on thinking young. And, by today’s standards, I’m not considered old, rather I’m considered middle-aged. My father was middle-aged when he died at 42 in 1967. As they say, 60 is the new 40.
But, I’ve dealt with one bout of cancer. I‘m a six year survivor. I’m being treated for hypertension - high blood pressure, if you will, and high cholesterol and triglycerides. The latter two are finally back in zone - AGAIN. But, the blood pressure, while not wildly out of control, is still not where I want it and where it should be. And, like much of our population, and especially prone are those in upper middle age and beyond, I’m carrying around too much protoplasm - well, the more common word would be weight. I see my internist regularly and she also feels that there are aging forces at work here that can be counteracted since I should still have a lot more energy, enthusiasm, motivation, etc. So, we’re looking for the root cause.
Living and working free are great, but they require that you have the physical, mental, emotional and even fiscal faculties to make it all work for a happy and fulfilling lifestyle. I am not unhappy. But, I do seem to lack the energy, enthusiasm, creativity, motivation and physical stamina that I should have at the tender age of 63. I still had most of this just a few years ago, but the decline has been subtle (maybe even a bit insidious). Now, it is apparent enough for me to realize it. It’s time to take action to grab my life back from apathy and malaise and start doing something that gives me joy and fulfillment and has some kind of positive impact on the world. My cup is still half full and I want it running over again. If you’re dealing with any of these kinds of feelings, thoughts or issues, let me know. As I find things that help me, I’ll pass them on to you.
Enthusiastically,
Ed
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